I can tell you right now that if you know you are in an abusive relationship, you should not be looking on the internet for advice on how to get out of it. But, I know that so many people resort to that, so I’m going to try to help those people out with this article. Honestly, where you should be going is to someone you trust. Sometimes it’s hard to find people to trust, so I can understand how the next best thing is to trust a stranger.
The first thing that you need to realize is that you do not deserve to be in an abusive or unhealthy relationship. You deserve to be respected, cherished, and loved in every sense of each word. Stop making excuses for you or the other person. There is no excuse or reason why one person should abuse the one person they say they love. I know that it’s hard to walk away from someone you love, but sometimes that’s the best thing you can do for them. I don’t care what kind of abuse it is, be it mental, verbal, physical, emotional, whatever. You do not deserve that, and you need to leave and find someone who will treat you right.
You also need to remind yourself that this abuse is not your fault. This person can say all they want that it’s because of you that they abuse you. But this is just not the case. It is because of the abusive person that they are like that. It is all them and they are the ones that need help. They need to go see a counselor or a therapist that can help them work through their problems. There are many different parts of people’s lives that affect the way they act towards other people. Your partner probably watched their own parents abuse each other, or even abuse drugs and alcohol. You partner could be involved in drugs and alcohol themselves and that makes them become abusive. This is something that you cannot change, especially if you are in danger of being hurt. The best thing you can do is walk away and don’t look back. Some people never change. And you can’t do it for them, they have to want to change themselves.
It becomes a bigger issue if you think that leaving this relationship is going to put you in bigger danger. If you think that your partner is going to do something to you if you leave, then you need to contact the police and tell them about what’s been going on, especially if he/she threatens you or has already caused you physical injuries. That is illegal and the police will not let your partner do something to you. Call them especially if you have marks on your body because the police will arrest him/her on the spot.
If you are unsure what to do or you aren’t sure how or if you can leave this abusive or unhealthy relationship, you need to talk to somebody. There are so many people in your life that can help you, even if you don’t think there are. If you are in high school, talk to a teacher or guidance counselor. Remember that a member of the staff in your school is required to speak if they are informed of physical abuse of one of students. This is a good thing. They will help you get through this. If you are not in school, talk to someone you trust or even a therapist. They will know how to help you. If you need to, get a restraining order from the person who is abusing you so that you can remain safe.
If you are a victim of abuse, then you need to contact someone immediately. Call the abuse hotline at 800-621-4673.